It’s skin-deep, or less than skin-deep if you consider the amount of makeup, airbrushing, and photoshopping that is involved in creating a magazine photo.
We carry this definition of beauty into our intimate relationships and assess our partners through this lens.
Because he didn’t fit my warped mould of ‘perfect’ I was withholding a part of myself that I feel is critical to attraction: emotional intimacy.
I was sort of punishing him for making me feel angry when he wasn’t doing anything to deserve it.
They only have to access the numerous threads on the e-course forum to see that they’re far from alone in this area.
It’s not something that’s discussed in Cosmo and Vogue, but it’s a line of thought that’s alive and well in the psyches of thousands of women and men.
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It’s like two essences talking to each other; the superfluous BS just falls away and I’m able to bat off the negative thoughts like an annoying fly.When I’m disconnected or in a projection I think, ‘Ugh.I can’t deal with that feature.’ But most of the time I look over at him and see my handsome, loving husband.” This client has been profoundly committed to her own process of healing and understood within minutes of our first session that her happiness and loving feelings were her own responsibility.It’s about the light that emanates from his eyes or the radiance of her smile.It’s about seeing soul instead of personality, the sustaining beauty of true nature instead of the fleeting beauty of a pretty face.